One of those serious issues that I have been thinking about recently.
One will only climb up the corporate ladder when the individual's goals are aligned with the company's.
This is extemely important as one cannot function to their full capabilities.
Besides that, one must consider about the kind of growth and experience they have reached during their tenure in the company.
For instant, besides knowledge growth in a certain area of expertise, what other soft skills are being developed? What other courses are taken externally to boost your expertise and resume?
I used to think that work life surrounds only one person. But then again, I forget the bigger environment which is the company. This costly mistake gave me a bonus - aka - rejection letters when I applied for jobs in the past.
Then I was being reprimanded by my dad when he made me go through the interview process with him over again, much to my anger of being rejected yet again.
Anyway, that's the past.
Then I went on to a local company and then I realised that besides being a multitasker, I think or feel that I was overqualified for what I was assigned to do. Anyway. I know that being a Work Newbie, it is definitely important to work the ground. Top mgt would not know what competencies / capabilities a newbie will have. They also need to observe the newcomer's attitude and work quality.
But after 3years of being on the job, I feel beside the $$ increasing with the no. of years in the company, the personal growth is significantly higher. Things like how to handle people, work among colleagues, bonding, and etc. But professional life, it seems like a standstill. Well, I didnt go into a company to evaluate all this. But some times after having a hard time in office, I wonder to myself what have I achieve. Have I become a pawn to someone who used me to get to others in office politics? What else have I learnt all these years?
I always hope that someone give me feedback on how I work and my attitude to others which obviously is my Johari's window. I can get quite nasty when I want to. I tried to control my temper at times. Worry a lot.
I wish my colleagues or bosses would feedback to me more rather than giving me superficial compliments which I find them a lip service or a perk to get the next job done just like a little puppy given a treat before being sent on the next trip to fetch the frisby.
I was being told that I may be suited for liaison work. I was thinking may not be a bad idea except that I am an "I" person. I need my meditation period and being away from others. Geez.like recharging power..
I noticed that I cannot sit still at my cubicle. I must move around so data crunching is not my cup of tea. I must find a job that matching this and I am passionate about.
I thought of going into the media / video editing field. I love the thrills of getting the right effects and being instinctive to finding the right jigsaw to fill the gap. I just wonder how good I am in the industry standard.
Argh! I am evaluating my work value again. It is an annual event which I feel everyone should do. It is similar to those who suggest updating the resume. It is to get people away from their comfort zone and see if there is any value added in their work as compared to the industry.
I see what I have then.
Thanks for the self-discovery session cum may be complaining session with me.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Branded names
Sometimes I wonder why would women call these bags decorated with logos of other people's names all over it repeatedly as BEAUTIFUL.
It is just a bloody logo so what so beautiful about it. It is just the work of the narcisstic designer who wants people to blatantly advertise their names for them . I bet they know the art of VIRAL MARKETING where the other sensory appealing-till-overdose media effects are not present. When one says the fact, it means nothing but when many speak the same thing, it becomes gospel truth. One of the oldest and proven way of marketing, still works today.
Then they tagged a high price for their logos and produced in limited amount, calling it LIMITED EDITION. It just appeals to the mass's need to stand out and hold something unique from the rest. By putting a high price to it, it just make people feel the importance of the logo as often items are judged by their materialistic value.
In a way, the materialistic consumerist society has set the definition of beauty depending on the market conditions eg low supply and hinged at high price.
Sounds cynical? Well, you just have to sit on it and ponder.
It is just a bloody logo so what so beautiful about it. It is just the work of the narcisstic designer who wants people to blatantly advertise their names for them . I bet they know the art of VIRAL MARKETING where the other sensory appealing-till-overdose media effects are not present. When one says the fact, it means nothing but when many speak the same thing, it becomes gospel truth. One of the oldest and proven way of marketing, still works today.
Then they tagged a high price for their logos and produced in limited amount, calling it LIMITED EDITION. It just appeals to the mass's need to stand out and hold something unique from the rest. By putting a high price to it, it just make people feel the importance of the logo as often items are judged by their materialistic value.
In a way, the materialistic consumerist society has set the definition of beauty depending on the market conditions eg low supply and hinged at high price.
Sounds cynical? Well, you just have to sit on it and ponder.
Wednesday, April 07, 2010
Trekking at Bukit Timah Nature Reserve
My colleague suggest trekking at Bukit Timah Nature Reserve for exercise after work.
Naturally, I agreed. I feel I can keep up with them though the terrain got me a little worried caused my leg may not be able to take it.
We went there and we saw a lot of branded cars already parked there. You know the more common ones now like the 4 interlinked circles, Be My Wifes, M cars and etc. We also saw a few half naked men there after their work. Geez...They look like the King Kong if you get what I mean. 2 slabs of muscles propped on 1 big sack. Geez....
Then we tried walking up the hill after goin to the toilet.
There, I confirmed my fears. Geez..The natural tracks are very challenging. The ups and downs. The roots as steps and the concrete barriers to prevent erosion as steps. Geez. I haven been so physically challenged. I had to stretch out to reach the next step down. I was in fact slowing the entire group down and I was so embarrassed.
Geez...
But I dun have a choice, it is either I head back or I continue with them. I thought. HECK, I should be able to do it. No reason why the others can do but I cant. The ups and downs of the slopes are so near the cliff that I cannot imagine if one of us fell down. It is like the abyss. Geez..
After the 1st part of the slope, I wonder. WHY AM I DOING THIS?
Haha...so ironic. I am already sweating like crazy. My whole face is covered with sweat and my teeshirt is already half wet. haha...No way, I am already there and I don't want to be left behind. I was panting like crazy.
Heng I borrowed the stick from my colleague and use it to help me move around like up the slope and down it. My colleague say I use it like pro. Of coz, I used to hobble around with an umbrella when my ligament was torn.
Lucky, my colleague is there to encourage me. Geez..Dunno what will happen when he is not around man.
Then I trudged on. Geez...It is tough. At the halfway junction where there is an option to continue on a longer route or return to the startpoint.
We decided to go on. Geez..1st time I was wiping my sweat with towel and wet somemore.
We had to pass by this very big gap and there is no steps. My colleague teach us how to climb over the large trunk of a tree and get over. Nearly slipped and fell.
As we were walking to the other side, I commented things like I know why this hill very important coz can lure the attacker to the cliff side and kick their butt so that they end up rolling down the hill.
When we trekked to the "Yao Ming Po", the killing slope, I feel the crows literally flew past me.
Gosh..I really feel like Jack and the beanstalk. There are steps all the way to the sky and my legs and ankles throbbed.
I cant see the end. I turned around and saw the slope. Geez..I feel I had vertigo. I quickly turn around. Nearly wanna faint. A moment of dizziness.
I told myself. Dun look behind. No turning back. I panicked.
In addition, my colleague said only Mount Kota Kinabalu has stretcher services that carry people down the hill and charge by the weight of the victim. BUT there was no such service here.
That really helps. Coz I need to get myself out of it.
I tried to climb the treacherous steps up the slope. I only stopped for a while when there is a wider step. But the steps besides being steep is full of rocks. Geez..
The only thing I remember and keep in mind is I want to go home. I want to eat my dinner alive. Finally the goal becomes to reach the orange bag.
Then when I reach the orange bag belonging to my colleague I felt a sense of relief and said. This is like goal setting. Cannot see the front road. But One has to perservere on coz there is no turning back. Already sink too much into it. Have no choice but to carry on. Had to have stamina and find ways to alleviate the risks and make road smoother.
I found myself cannot take it when I reach the concrete floor and found out that the concrete floor is as steep as the track with minimal friction and I was like paddling around like a penguin.
My colleague was joking saying that no mosquito dare to land on we girls but to stay with him. He is the only one without insect repellent.
Geez.....
What a day. But I must say the dinner worth it wor. I realise I regain the capabilities of eating so fast.ahah......
Geez...real tired that my ankle hurt as I place improper pressure goin down the slope and my arm hurts as I use it to prop my leg and some pressure off both feets.
However, as we forget to do warmup,my thighs hurts like hell..geez.....
I need a good rub and good massage..gee...helpme...
Naturally, I agreed. I feel I can keep up with them though the terrain got me a little worried caused my leg may not be able to take it.
We went there and we saw a lot of branded cars already parked there. You know the more common ones now like the 4 interlinked circles, Be My Wifes, M cars and etc. We also saw a few half naked men there after their work. Geez...They look like the King Kong if you get what I mean. 2 slabs of muscles propped on 1 big sack. Geez....
Then we tried walking up the hill after goin to the toilet.
There, I confirmed my fears. Geez..The natural tracks are very challenging. The ups and downs. The roots as steps and the concrete barriers to prevent erosion as steps. Geez. I haven been so physically challenged. I had to stretch out to reach the next step down. I was in fact slowing the entire group down and I was so embarrassed.
Geez...
But I dun have a choice, it is either I head back or I continue with them. I thought. HECK, I should be able to do it. No reason why the others can do but I cant. The ups and downs of the slopes are so near the cliff that I cannot imagine if one of us fell down. It is like the abyss. Geez..
After the 1st part of the slope, I wonder. WHY AM I DOING THIS?
Haha...so ironic. I am already sweating like crazy. My whole face is covered with sweat and my teeshirt is already half wet. haha...No way, I am already there and I don't want to be left behind. I was panting like crazy.
Heng I borrowed the stick from my colleague and use it to help me move around like up the slope and down it. My colleague say I use it like pro. Of coz, I used to hobble around with an umbrella when my ligament was torn.
Lucky, my colleague is there to encourage me. Geez..Dunno what will happen when he is not around man.
Then I trudged on. Geez...It is tough. At the halfway junction where there is an option to continue on a longer route or return to the startpoint.
We decided to go on. Geez..1st time I was wiping my sweat with towel and wet somemore.
We had to pass by this very big gap and there is no steps. My colleague teach us how to climb over the large trunk of a tree and get over. Nearly slipped and fell.
As we were walking to the other side, I commented things like I know why this hill very important coz can lure the attacker to the cliff side and kick their butt so that they end up rolling down the hill.
When we trekked to the "Yao Ming Po", the killing slope, I feel the crows literally flew past me.
Gosh..I really feel like Jack and the beanstalk. There are steps all the way to the sky and my legs and ankles throbbed.
I cant see the end. I turned around and saw the slope. Geez..I feel I had vertigo. I quickly turn around. Nearly wanna faint. A moment of dizziness.
I told myself. Dun look behind. No turning back. I panicked.
In addition, my colleague said only Mount Kota Kinabalu has stretcher services that carry people down the hill and charge by the weight of the victim. BUT there was no such service here.
That really helps. Coz I need to get myself out of it.
I tried to climb the treacherous steps up the slope. I only stopped for a while when there is a wider step. But the steps besides being steep is full of rocks. Geez..
The only thing I remember and keep in mind is I want to go home. I want to eat my dinner alive. Finally the goal becomes to reach the orange bag.
Then when I reach the orange bag belonging to my colleague I felt a sense of relief and said. This is like goal setting. Cannot see the front road. But One has to perservere on coz there is no turning back. Already sink too much into it. Have no choice but to carry on. Had to have stamina and find ways to alleviate the risks and make road smoother.
I found myself cannot take it when I reach the concrete floor and found out that the concrete floor is as steep as the track with minimal friction and I was like paddling around like a penguin.
My colleague was joking saying that no mosquito dare to land on we girls but to stay with him. He is the only one without insect repellent.
Geez.....
What a day. But I must say the dinner worth it wor. I realise I regain the capabilities of eating so fast.ahah......
Geez...real tired that my ankle hurt as I place improper pressure goin down the slope and my arm hurts as I use it to prop my leg and some pressure off both feets.
However, as we forget to do warmup,my thighs hurts like hell..geez.....
I need a good rub and good massage..gee...helpme...
Saturday, April 03, 2010
New Phone
I got my new phone!
Yay!!
Cant wait to play with this new toy. But have to wait for it to finish charging...
Way cool!!!
Yay!!
Cant wait to play with this new toy. But have to wait for it to finish charging...
Way cool!!!
Friday, April 02, 2010
Clash of Titans
It is like one of the shows I have been waiting for.
I like Sam Worthington since AVATAR. Geez....
Anyway, it is a remake of ancient Greek Mythology.
The animations are GREAT! The cast is eye pleasing and the settings is okie.
Just that I do not like the prophet of sorts so naive.
I like the show overall. I would be overwhelmed if we watched it in 3D.
We met with some problems while we are trying to get tickets for the show.
First, the trusty old cinema theatre's aircon broke down. Cant get the slot we want.
2nd, there was this couple who asked the tiket lady to come up and evict us as we sat on their places mistakenly. We were thinking cant they just confront us about it instead of goin 1 big round and the show starts already. Anyway, they got their right of way mah, so why so shy about it?
I mean halfway through the show, I was wondering if Sam Worthington was going to be like Gerard Butler, trying romance comedy. I was thinking nice bod going to waste. Geez..A little crazy since someone once commented to me that it is a waste of time to train up 6 packs which by the end of the day all was to reduce to one bag.
I like Sam Worthington since AVATAR. Geez....
Anyway, it is a remake of ancient Greek Mythology.
The animations are GREAT! The cast is eye pleasing and the settings is okie.
Just that I do not like the prophet of sorts so naive.
I like the show overall. I would be overwhelmed if we watched it in 3D.
We met with some problems while we are trying to get tickets for the show.
First, the trusty old cinema theatre's aircon broke down. Cant get the slot we want.
2nd, there was this couple who asked the tiket lady to come up and evict us as we sat on their places mistakenly. We were thinking cant they just confront us about it instead of goin 1 big round and the show starts already. Anyway, they got their right of way mah, so why so shy about it?
I mean halfway through the show, I was wondering if Sam Worthington was going to be like Gerard Butler, trying romance comedy. I was thinking nice bod going to waste. Geez..A little crazy since someone once commented to me that it is a waste of time to train up 6 packs which by the end of the day all was to reduce to one bag.
Thursday, April 01, 2010
When in Rome
I was quite reluctant when my friend jio me to watch this movie.
I mean this year's movies names are very forgettable..I keep forgetting what is the show when I know the trailer.
Anyway, this movie's trailer was very interesting. It was about this bachelorette who had everything she wants except for love. She met jerks.
Finally, so hurt she was that she took out coins that people tossed into the fountain of love in Rome, in a declaration to save them.
Unknown to her, she fell into a curse. The men who tossed the coins that she picked up came courting after her.
She was shocked. She thought the guy whom she like also fell under the same curse. She thought he wasnt really falling for her.
After the show, I had some thoughts about it. Though the show was silly, it was hilarious and almost full house in the theatre I was in.
When too many bad and unfortunate things occur, one just feel at end's wits. That's why when out of a sudden a beautiful event landed, one just could not believe the fortune and keep on doubting whether is it tur or not.
Too beautiful to behold.
One just connot believe that he or she can own such a beautiful thing after a series of bad events convinced the person that they are unlucky.
I mean this year's movies names are very forgettable..I keep forgetting what is the show when I know the trailer.
Anyway, this movie's trailer was very interesting. It was about this bachelorette who had everything she wants except for love. She met jerks.
Finally, so hurt she was that she took out coins that people tossed into the fountain of love in Rome, in a declaration to save them.
Unknown to her, she fell into a curse. The men who tossed the coins that she picked up came courting after her.
She was shocked. She thought the guy whom she like also fell under the same curse. She thought he wasnt really falling for her.
After the show, I had some thoughts about it. Though the show was silly, it was hilarious and almost full house in the theatre I was in.
When too many bad and unfortunate things occur, one just feel at end's wits. That's why when out of a sudden a beautiful event landed, one just could not believe the fortune and keep on doubting whether is it tur or not.
Too beautiful to behold.
One just connot believe that he or she can own such a beautiful thing after a series of bad events convinced the person that they are unlucky.
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Bridging Method Part II
A little follow-up on the earlier incident.
Apparently my mode of communication to my colleagues is not good. I checked out for feedback regarding the mini confrontation that I had with the rude colleague of mine.
Guess what?
She completely missed my point. She insisted another colleague of mine is out to frame her. She does not see where her fault lies.
I am now convinced my mode of communication is very bad. I always believed that it is the sender's failure to get the proper message sent across.
Either that or her decoding of messages sent was poor. She was into self-delusion. She totally convinced herself that she was innocent and that it was perfectly legitimate to open other people's cabinets.
Geeez....I must say no matter which way, it is very sad to see someone in her 20 odd years of service fails to see the importance of security.
Haiz........
Apparently my mode of communication to my colleagues is not good. I checked out for feedback regarding the mini confrontation that I had with the rude colleague of mine.
Guess what?
She completely missed my point. She insisted another colleague of mine is out to frame her. She does not see where her fault lies.
I am now convinced my mode of communication is very bad. I always believed that it is the sender's failure to get the proper message sent across.
Either that or her decoding of messages sent was poor. She was into self-delusion. She totally convinced herself that she was innocent and that it was perfectly legitimate to open other people's cabinets.
Geeez....I must say no matter which way, it is very sad to see someone in her 20 odd years of service fails to see the importance of security.
Haiz........
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Bridging method
In the TOYF, there is a small part under the Pendulum Plan called "Bridging Techniques".
Of course, there are other literature that contains such terms too.
Bridging, under the TOYF context, is referring to what's being done moments before answering a question that is very important to others. The questioner will assess you based on your response.
Benefits of Bridging is very good as it is a good way to show respect to others, clarify the questions posed so that the reply will be accurate and lastly to buy some time to clear out how to reply.
It is often used to reply somone very emotional at that point in time. The method emphasise on acknowledging the other person;s feeling and thoughts before dealing with the facts.
Well, I thought this is a pretty good plan but I probably would not use it. I was proven wrong last friday.
My colleague sent me some information to go through. I went through them and flag some items to my boss. I brought those documents to my boss. On my way back to my desk, I heard cabinet door being slammed, coming from the direction of my desk. As I sit at one corner, colleagues would not be loitering there unless they are there to find me. I am positive that at that point in time, there was no one else in that corner.
Then I saw the colleague who handed me the information coming out from my cubicle. To be honest, I was shocked. I knew this colleague of mine rummaged my cabinet without my permission as I can hear the noise made by my own cabinet. I was bloody pissed off and angry.
But I have other things to be done. I suppressed my anger and went ahead with other things.
Then as things settled down, I began to think back while pacing up and down in my cubicle. No way was I wrong about that colleague. She came out of my cubicle area.
In order to be factual, I asked the other colleagues to see if they witness anything.
But BOY, I was bloody mad.
Turn out, one of them saw it and quickly scotted off.
From then I have no doubt about my theory.
Now,left the option of how to bring this up to that guilty colleague of mine.
A little bit on this colleague of mine. She is very sensitive. She hates people misjudging and mistreating her.
She once told me off for putting documents on her desk with her computer on while she was away.
I mean fine. It was actually partly my fault. I should have waited for her to come back before giving her. But c'mon, her desk doesnt even have an IN-tray. She should have switched her computer to desktop while she was away.
She wants others to respect her.\
She even told another sick colleague of mine that she should not be loitering around othe people's cubicle when they are not around.
Now, under such circumstances, can you see why I am bloody mad and pissed off?
She was clearly double standard.
She doesnt respect me at all even though I hold a Higher position than her. (I dun like to compare position but she is the one who always insist she was discriminated against due to position difference).
She doesnt even care of other's security yet she want hers secured.
She is the one who insisted on privacy and etc.
Ridiculous isnt it?
I wasnt that petty kind but security issues are not to be played with or belittle upon.
I knew I had to say this to her. If there are anything important missing from my cabinet, I will be held accounted for.
Geez....
So I forced myself to calm down. I had to force myself with the help of my colleagues. There is no point burning bridges with her. I had to get stuff from her.
Bridges..Ah! bridging......
I tried to recall what I learnt from the bridging techniques.
At first, I questioned her about her prescence in my cubicle.
Then she tried to explain she wants to take the documents. (I find it hard to believe as I asked her before when she need it. She said she need it on monday.)
Fine, I accepted it though my blood continue to simmer.
Then I ask cant she wait for me to get it since I am around.
She said she was in a hurry and she cannot find me. (That's bulls. I was in the same level as her. Cant she search for me?)
Again, my blood continue to bubble.
Finally, I asked the most important question. What did she search at my cubicle?
She said she went through my desk and drawers.
Tah-dda
That's the answer I want.
So I said. Please let me know what kind of things you want. I am in the office. Please do not search around my cubicle. This is not good and it creates unneccessary problems.
I make sure she knows that I am unhappy and do not belittle me as I am younger than her. There are things that age would not be an legitimate excuse for the behaviour.
She replied. I was in a hurry mah. I got a witness. (So what if you have a witness? Where is your approval from the boss or the owner?)
You should have told me that you are going to tell your boss. (Her memory must be failing her. I told my boss in front of her when he came down to look for me. Besides, you are the one who told me you only need it on Monday. Furthermore, your position is lower than mine, I already did my best informing you. Why should I tell you again? You are not my boss.)
Nonetheless, I told her firmly. Do not do it again and caused unnecessary trouble.
Then I left.
By then, my blood reaching boiling point. Bloody idiot! 强词夺理的猪头.
That's not a legitimate answer.
She was no security manager and my boss.
So what if she quoted a witness? Can you still justify why you search your superior's desk?
No wonder it caused some male chauvinistic pigs to come up with things like 女人头发长, 见识短. (Women have long hair but they have no foresight). Not all ladies are like that but
There was a chinese saying dont do anything to others unless you want them to do so to you. (己所不欲,勿施于人.)
Bloody unreasonable.
Then I calmed down with the help of icecream and think through. In my haste, I forgot to acknowledge her emotions, Her motives for doing this so it was half-complete. Thus making my efforts not to burn bridges with her a bit half-done. She only received the "I know what you did and do not do it again" message.
A bit half-baked. But nice effort.
I thought through. I wasnt used to dealing with all these especially confronting the guilty ones. I should improve on my delivery and make sure I send the correct message in the correct format the next time.
Of course, there are other literature that contains such terms too.
Bridging, under the TOYF context, is referring to what's being done moments before answering a question that is very important to others. The questioner will assess you based on your response.
Benefits of Bridging is very good as it is a good way to show respect to others, clarify the questions posed so that the reply will be accurate and lastly to buy some time to clear out how to reply.
It is often used to reply somone very emotional at that point in time. The method emphasise on acknowledging the other person;s feeling and thoughts before dealing with the facts.
Well, I thought this is a pretty good plan but I probably would not use it. I was proven wrong last friday.
My colleague sent me some information to go through. I went through them and flag some items to my boss. I brought those documents to my boss. On my way back to my desk, I heard cabinet door being slammed, coming from the direction of my desk. As I sit at one corner, colleagues would not be loitering there unless they are there to find me. I am positive that at that point in time, there was no one else in that corner.
Then I saw the colleague who handed me the information coming out from my cubicle. To be honest, I was shocked. I knew this colleague of mine rummaged my cabinet without my permission as I can hear the noise made by my own cabinet. I was bloody pissed off and angry.
But I have other things to be done. I suppressed my anger and went ahead with other things.
Then as things settled down, I began to think back while pacing up and down in my cubicle. No way was I wrong about that colleague. She came out of my cubicle area.
In order to be factual, I asked the other colleagues to see if they witness anything.
But BOY, I was bloody mad.
Turn out, one of them saw it and quickly scotted off.
From then I have no doubt about my theory.
Now,left the option of how to bring this up to that guilty colleague of mine.
A little bit on this colleague of mine. She is very sensitive. She hates people misjudging and mistreating her.
She once told me off for putting documents on her desk with her computer on while she was away.
I mean fine. It was actually partly my fault. I should have waited for her to come back before giving her. But c'mon, her desk doesnt even have an IN-tray. She should have switched her computer to desktop while she was away.
She wants others to respect her.\
She even told another sick colleague of mine that she should not be loitering around othe people's cubicle when they are not around.
Now, under such circumstances, can you see why I am bloody mad and pissed off?
She was clearly double standard.
She doesnt respect me at all even though I hold a Higher position than her. (I dun like to compare position but she is the one who always insist she was discriminated against due to position difference).
She doesnt even care of other's security yet she want hers secured.
She is the one who insisted on privacy and etc.
Ridiculous isnt it?
I wasnt that petty kind but security issues are not to be played with or belittle upon.
I knew I had to say this to her. If there are anything important missing from my cabinet, I will be held accounted for.
Geez....
So I forced myself to calm down. I had to force myself with the help of my colleagues. There is no point burning bridges with her. I had to get stuff from her.
Bridges..Ah! bridging......
I tried to recall what I learnt from the bridging techniques.
At first, I questioned her about her prescence in my cubicle.
Then she tried to explain she wants to take the documents. (I find it hard to believe as I asked her before when she need it. She said she need it on monday.)
Fine, I accepted it though my blood continue to simmer.
Then I ask cant she wait for me to get it since I am around.
She said she was in a hurry and she cannot find me. (That's bulls. I was in the same level as her. Cant she search for me?)
Again, my blood continue to bubble.
Finally, I asked the most important question. What did she search at my cubicle?
She said she went through my desk and drawers.
Tah-dda
That's the answer I want.
So I said. Please let me know what kind of things you want. I am in the office. Please do not search around my cubicle. This is not good and it creates unneccessary problems.
I make sure she knows that I am unhappy and do not belittle me as I am younger than her. There are things that age would not be an legitimate excuse for the behaviour.
She replied. I was in a hurry mah. I got a witness. (So what if you have a witness? Where is your approval from the boss or the owner?)
You should have told me that you are going to tell your boss. (Her memory must be failing her. I told my boss in front of her when he came down to look for me. Besides, you are the one who told me you only need it on Monday. Furthermore, your position is lower than mine, I already did my best informing you. Why should I tell you again? You are not my boss.)
Nonetheless, I told her firmly. Do not do it again and caused unnecessary trouble.
Then I left.
By then, my blood reaching boiling point. Bloody idiot! 强词夺理的猪头.
That's not a legitimate answer.
She was no security manager and my boss.
So what if she quoted a witness? Can you still justify why you search your superior's desk?
No wonder it caused some male chauvinistic pigs to come up with things like 女人头发长, 见识短. (Women have long hair but they have no foresight). Not all ladies are like that but
There was a chinese saying dont do anything to others unless you want them to do so to you. (己所不欲,勿施于人.)
Bloody unreasonable.
Then I calmed down with the help of icecream and think through. In my haste, I forgot to acknowledge her emotions, Her motives for doing this so it was half-complete. Thus making my efforts not to burn bridges with her a bit half-done. She only received the "I know what you did and do not do it again" message.
A bit half-baked. But nice effort.
I thought through. I wasnt used to dealing with all these especially confronting the guilty ones. I should improve on my delivery and make sure I send the correct message in the correct format the next time.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Art of talking
For the past few years after school, it has been a road of discovery about myself.
I loved the road of discovery but it is quite scary, honestly.
As I mentioned earlier, making / giving a speech wasn't my forte.
I prefer writing over talking. May be that is why I took an instant liking for Internet where everyone is
faceless.
I have a lot of things to say, some may be offensive to others.
BUT I never dare to say.
Why?
I am scared I might offend people and fell into the vicious cycle of being attacked by others.
If being silent can stay out of harm's way, why not?
I can be brutally direct at times.
This becomes my weapon without my knowledge until someone told me about it after she cannot stand it.
Then I realise I have the problem of packaging my ideas.
In other words, my delivery is bad.
I have been finding ways to deal with it but they worked with varying success depending on the context.
This is not good as I do not know what are my success factors. Now it seems like a pure stroke of luck make those occasions a success.
Then I came across an interesting notion.
Store what you want to bring up and things you want to say. When someone mentions similar things, repackage / reframe those ideas that you have in mind and say it out.
Works the best.
Now I have given it some thought and find that it is not a bad idea.
But it has several pre-requisites:
a) You must have a GOOD MEMORY. Otherwise the ideas might just slip away like I always do.
Or the database in the mind has no search engine. Lost links.
b) You must have QUICK REFLEX. Why? so that the moment things are mentioned and balls are
rolling, you can quickly reframe and shoot.
c) You must have LARGE ANTENNA. If you have one, congratulations. You can have the widest
reach and bring ideas up.
May be I can try to cultivate those pre-requisites and I will not get bulldozed into doing work that I cant refused.
I loved the road of discovery but it is quite scary, honestly.
As I mentioned earlier, making / giving a speech wasn't my forte.
I prefer writing over talking. May be that is why I took an instant liking for Internet where everyone is
faceless.
I have a lot of things to say, some may be offensive to others.
BUT I never dare to say.
Why?
I am scared I might offend people and fell into the vicious cycle of being attacked by others.
If being silent can stay out of harm's way, why not?
I can be brutally direct at times.
This becomes my weapon without my knowledge until someone told me about it after she cannot stand it.
Then I realise I have the problem of packaging my ideas.
In other words, my delivery is bad.
I have been finding ways to deal with it but they worked with varying success depending on the context.
This is not good as I do not know what are my success factors. Now it seems like a pure stroke of luck make those occasions a success.
Then I came across an interesting notion.
Store what you want to bring up and things you want to say. When someone mentions similar things, repackage / reframe those ideas that you have in mind and say it out.
Works the best.
Now I have given it some thought and find that it is not a bad idea.
But it has several pre-requisites:
a) You must have a GOOD MEMORY. Otherwise the ideas might just slip away like I always do.
Or the database in the mind has no search engine. Lost links.
b) You must have QUICK REFLEX. Why? so that the moment things are mentioned and balls are
rolling, you can quickly reframe and shoot.
c) You must have LARGE ANTENNA. If you have one, congratulations. You can have the widest
reach and bring ideas up.
May be I can try to cultivate those pre-requisites and I will not get bulldozed into doing work that I cant refused.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Friendships
I am at the crossroad of yet another friendship again.
I realised I am not very good at handling relationship. The flair for it is nearly zero.
Time and again, I have to deal with it and I havent manage to find a way to minimize my emotional damage.
Still like a kid, not handling it in a mature way.
To me, rapport building with people was never easy. I only let a few into my inner circle as MBTI would have put it. Relationship building is never easy for me and I treasure any relationship with anyone. I tried to keep up with the relationship maintainance, at least I did my best.
Close friends are hard to find. As time passed, people will change in terms of personality, looks, social circles and etc. Therefore, the nature of the friendship changes.
Efforts are made to accommodate all these, never mind the infrequent catching up and work issues. In my opinion, friendships are like this, if it is yours, it is yours. It is fate that people meet and click and form a friendship. You work hard to maintain it and try your best to keep it.
But a relationship need 2 parties to communicate and maintain, not just one-sided. Things will always crop up but one has to try to find some time to make it work. It can't be coincidental that everytime you ask someone out, the other person is not free. It simply sound like the person is trying to avoid the other party.
Why?
Precisely of the dfference between people.
The eventual result of such relationship is drifting apart and dissociate ties then.
That's why I wonder, is the difference so great that one cannot accomodate another, not even on the account of several years of friendships that each other had.
I simply cannot understand.
I know that people has to work, has to have their own social circles and etc. They are tired and has nothing else in mind but to rest.
Normal friends can be as such. The requirements may not be so stringent.
But close friends. How can a pair of close friends not meet for 6 months, given the fact that both are in the same country?
Is friendship so not worth keeping it?
On the other perspective, may be I am very paranoid and possessive, possibly even "sticky" as chewing gum. Maybe the other party has a boyfriend and has to manage her time carefully...
Of course, friendships cannot be compared to imtimate relationships like couple had. That I can understand.
Maybe the other party needs more time for her dream fulfillment.
Maybe...
Maybe...
Maybe...
Maybe...
There are so many "Mabybe"s that I dont know it exist.
I feel quite disappointed. It feels like an warm gesture of extending a hand for handshake has been slapped away or not been reciprocated.
Quite sad...
Worse of all, I feel very bad as I myself have not improve much. Like not much growth, mentally. Unlike others, who improve by leap and bounds.
But how to deal with it?
I have not figure it out. The best way I tried so far is to forget it.
Minimize and blot out the image.
Any other methods to try?
I realised I am not very good at handling relationship. The flair for it is nearly zero.
Time and again, I have to deal with it and I havent manage to find a way to minimize my emotional damage.
Still like a kid, not handling it in a mature way.
To me, rapport building with people was never easy. I only let a few into my inner circle as MBTI would have put it. Relationship building is never easy for me and I treasure any relationship with anyone. I tried to keep up with the relationship maintainance, at least I did my best.
Close friends are hard to find. As time passed, people will change in terms of personality, looks, social circles and etc. Therefore, the nature of the friendship changes.
Efforts are made to accommodate all these, never mind the infrequent catching up and work issues. In my opinion, friendships are like this, if it is yours, it is yours. It is fate that people meet and click and form a friendship. You work hard to maintain it and try your best to keep it.
But a relationship need 2 parties to communicate and maintain, not just one-sided. Things will always crop up but one has to try to find some time to make it work. It can't be coincidental that everytime you ask someone out, the other person is not free. It simply sound like the person is trying to avoid the other party.
Why?
Precisely of the dfference between people.
The eventual result of such relationship is drifting apart and dissociate ties then.
That's why I wonder, is the difference so great that one cannot accomodate another, not even on the account of several years of friendships that each other had.
I simply cannot understand.
I know that people has to work, has to have their own social circles and etc. They are tired and has nothing else in mind but to rest.
Normal friends can be as such. The requirements may not be so stringent.
But close friends. How can a pair of close friends not meet for 6 months, given the fact that both are in the same country?
Is friendship so not worth keeping it?
On the other perspective, may be I am very paranoid and possessive, possibly even "sticky" as chewing gum. Maybe the other party has a boyfriend and has to manage her time carefully...
Of course, friendships cannot be compared to imtimate relationships like couple had. That I can understand.
Maybe the other party needs more time for her dream fulfillment.
Maybe...
Maybe...
Maybe...
Maybe...
There are so many "Mabybe"s that I dont know it exist.
I feel quite disappointed. It feels like an warm gesture of extending a hand for handshake has been slapped away or not been reciprocated.
Quite sad...
Worse of all, I feel very bad as I myself have not improve much. Like not much growth, mentally. Unlike others, who improve by leap and bounds.
But how to deal with it?
I have not figure it out. The best way I tried so far is to forget it.
Minimize and blot out the image.
Any other methods to try?
Sunday, March 21, 2010
State of Unrest
I always has this state of unrest after a period of being in my comfort zone for too long. I yearn to do something new, something drastic and something challenging.
Not sure if anyone ever feel this way, the feeling is rather intense at times and I just loathe myself for not able to do anything.
Why am I unable to carry out anything?
One, I dun have a concrete plan. Relying on passion and impulse is not going to get anyone anywhere, better still may land the person in hot soup. Once you have a plan, passion will then comes in and motivate people to strive for their goals.
Sounds a lot like procrastination huh?
But the fact is that after the period of unrest, the awareness of cruel reality seeped in. What is the contingency plan that I have should my adventure fails? Do I have the resources to pull it off? I am still in debt repayment. Actually, what I lack I believe besides a concrete plan is financial resources and network.
Hmm.....
All that sort of dampen my spirit to do something drastic until the next surge of unrest hits me again.
Then someone triggered and stirred up the surge of unrest in me when I am in the dormant stage.
Geez.......
Not only did he make my brain work overtime, the feelings of unrest starts to gnaw me again.
GEez.....
He mentioned the following:
1. It is good that I feel the state of unrest and being dissatisfied with my present life.
2. It is good to be unrealistic and have this big rather impossible dream as there is a fine line between a madman and a genius.
3. There is a difference between gifted and talented. Gifts are limitless and innate in everyone while talents ae additional bonus that each one of us may or may not have.
Can you imagine the inner turmoil I have upon hearing this?
Hmm....there is a revolution going on in my mind.
I have never thought of it this way. Dreams I have but...
It is always BUT behind...
Let me think very hard on it and reflect.......
Geez...
Not sure if anyone ever feel this way, the feeling is rather intense at times and I just loathe myself for not able to do anything.
Why am I unable to carry out anything?
One, I dun have a concrete plan. Relying on passion and impulse is not going to get anyone anywhere, better still may land the person in hot soup. Once you have a plan, passion will then comes in and motivate people to strive for their goals.
Sounds a lot like procrastination huh?
But the fact is that after the period of unrest, the awareness of cruel reality seeped in. What is the contingency plan that I have should my adventure fails? Do I have the resources to pull it off? I am still in debt repayment. Actually, what I lack I believe besides a concrete plan is financial resources and network.
Hmm.....
All that sort of dampen my spirit to do something drastic until the next surge of unrest hits me again.
Then someone triggered and stirred up the surge of unrest in me when I am in the dormant stage.
Geez.......
Not only did he make my brain work overtime, the feelings of unrest starts to gnaw me again.
GEez.....
He mentioned the following:
1. It is good that I feel the state of unrest and being dissatisfied with my present life.
2. It is good to be unrealistic and have this big rather impossible dream as there is a fine line between a madman and a genius.
3. There is a difference between gifted and talented. Gifts are limitless and innate in everyone while talents ae additional bonus that each one of us may or may not have.
Can you imagine the inner turmoil I have upon hearing this?
Hmm....there is a revolution going on in my mind.
I have never thought of it this way. Dreams I have but...
It is always BUT behind...
Let me think very hard on it and reflect.......
Geez...
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
TOYF - Benefits Plan
Someone reflected that I should do more on the earlier post on my application of TOYF's "Benefits Plan".
I am sorry that I missed out that part, only showing the applications but not the formula.
See that's what NLP terms it as the applying critical success factors for good work done in an unconscious level.
Now this person reminded me that I must show the conceptual thinking behind it which I would have forgotten.
Let me go through a little bit of history.
TOYF's main line of argument is based on logical reasoning with facts.
BENEFITS PLAN is the last plan out of a total of 6 plans listed on TOYF.
It is represented by a ring of arrows protruding outwards.
The line of reasoning is used to persuade and convince audience by illustrating the potential benefits from the audience's perspective.
Benefits are different from the features of the products. They are the points which the audience values a lot and finds out that by using the features of the product for instance, it make them more efficient and smart.
The structure of the argument is the commonly used sandwich method in which you package your persuasive points in the following order:
2nd most impressive point --> disadvantage --> Most impressive point.
Of course logic can be a double-edged sword.
People can rebutt your line of reasoning by using the REVERSE BENEFIT plan in which using the same structure outline the disadvantages to the audience.
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Hope everyone gain a bit of knowledge on the use of such plan.
Again, this is my personal understanding and opinion of the concept.
Copyright infringement is definitely a NONO for me.
I am sorry that I missed out that part, only showing the applications but not the formula.
See that's what NLP terms it as the applying critical success factors for good work done in an unconscious level.
Now this person reminded me that I must show the conceptual thinking behind it which I would have forgotten.
Let me go through a little bit of history.
TOYF's main line of argument is based on logical reasoning with facts.
BENEFITS PLAN is the last plan out of a total of 6 plans listed on TOYF.
It is represented by a ring of arrows protruding outwards.
Benefits are different from the features of the products. They are the points which the audience values a lot and finds out that by using the features of the product for instance, it make them more efficient and smart.
The structure of the argument is the commonly used sandwich method in which you package your persuasive points in the following order:
2nd most impressive point --> disadvantage --> Most impressive point.
Of course logic can be a double-edged sword.
People can rebutt your line of reasoning by using the REVERSE BENEFIT plan in which using the same structure outline the disadvantages to the audience.
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Hope everyone gain a bit of knowledge on the use of such plan.
Again, this is my personal understanding and opinion of the concept.
Copyright infringement is definitely a NONO for me.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Self-consciousness
On a shopping trip with mum,we saw a lady trying to look for a seat on the MRT.
She looks well on the outside, but she keeps shifting her stance as if her legs are tired.
Nobody was taking notice of this.
Whenever there is an empty seat, she will try to move there as soon as possible after a slight hesitation. However, others nearby were too fast for her.
I whispered to my mum. "Why did she hesitate? She could have gotten the seat if not for her hesitation."
My mum with her words of wisdom shed some light into this. "Well, she might be feeling self-consciousness."
I was surprised at her comment.
We continued our discussion on this.
Me:
"Well, if she has a valid reason like her legs are weak and she desperately need rest, she can take the seat without any self-consciousness or how others view her. Afterall, she is the only one to take care of her own health."
Mum:
"You must know this. People will gossip about their behaviour right in front of them. It would not be nice, isnt it? Moreover, you dunno if anyone will blog this on the Internet or take picture and post them online calling her a seat grabber. Afterall, she looks find on the exterior."
Me:
"Well, she has a problem and she is the only one to know. There is no need to publisize and announce to everyone in the cabin that 'hey I have a weak knee and I need a seat.' She should know her own health. It is better to get a seat and have everyone's tongue wagging than to fell down and suffer injuries. As long as your conscience is clear, there is no need to tell anyone."
Mum:
"Things dun happen this way. People will think you are selfish and not civic-minded."
I was loss for words. Apparently, the loss of FACE is more important than health.
But on a another level, the impact of technology on people is tremendous yet again.
Even aunties are wary of the technology and do self-censorship on their actions and behaviours so that their photos wont end up in the YOUTUBE or STOMP.
Scary isnt it.
She looks well on the outside, but she keeps shifting her stance as if her legs are tired.
Nobody was taking notice of this.
Whenever there is an empty seat, she will try to move there as soon as possible after a slight hesitation. However, others nearby were too fast for her.
I whispered to my mum. "Why did she hesitate? She could have gotten the seat if not for her hesitation."
My mum with her words of wisdom shed some light into this. "Well, she might be feeling self-consciousness."
I was surprised at her comment.
We continued our discussion on this.
Me:
"Well, if she has a valid reason like her legs are weak and she desperately need rest, she can take the seat without any self-consciousness or how others view her. Afterall, she is the only one to take care of her own health."
Mum:
"You must know this. People will gossip about their behaviour right in front of them. It would not be nice, isnt it? Moreover, you dunno if anyone will blog this on the Internet or take picture and post them online calling her a seat grabber. Afterall, she looks find on the exterior."
Me:
"Well, she has a problem and she is the only one to know. There is no need to publisize and announce to everyone in the cabin that 'hey I have a weak knee and I need a seat.' She should know her own health. It is better to get a seat and have everyone's tongue wagging than to fell down and suffer injuries. As long as your conscience is clear, there is no need to tell anyone."
Mum:
"Things dun happen this way. People will think you are selfish and not civic-minded."
I was loss for words. Apparently, the loss of FACE is more important than health.
But on a another level, the impact of technology on people is tremendous yet again.
Even aunties are wary of the technology and do self-censorship on their actions and behaviours so that their photos wont end up in the YOUTUBE or STOMP.
Scary isnt it.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Sun Tzu's quote
"Do not believe that the enemy will not come,
Believe in your readiness to deal with him"
I chanced upon this on a TV show on Channelnews Asia.
I find this quote very interesting. Based on my limited experience, this quote is so true, providing a solution to one of my existing problems.
Self delusion is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone at anytime. you want to delete away the bad news like your computer can do, forget it and it will go away.
However, based on experience, bad things will never go away. In fact, the more you ignore it, the more attention seeking it is and snowballed into a series of bad events which you may or may not be capable of handling it. The consequences more often than not, is disastrous. Of course, you can always blame Murphy and forget Justin Case does exist, just that you never even trouble yourself to find Justin.
Hence, the best way to deal with bad things is to face it straight on. Tell the bad thing and convince yourself to say "Bring it On, Baby". Of course handling the bad thing initially will be tough. But as you go along, bad things like knots will become easier to unravel at the end. Once you are ready to deal with it, there is no stopping of getting a good, positive result unless Mr Murphy decides to disturb your solution to find balance.
Hopefully, everyone can convince yourself to get ready to face the challenges ahead.
Believe in your readiness to deal with him"
I chanced upon this on a TV show on Channelnews Asia.
I find this quote very interesting. Based on my limited experience, this quote is so true, providing a solution to one of my existing problems.
Self delusion is one of the worse things that can happen to anyone at anytime. you want to delete away the bad news like your computer can do, forget it and it will go away.
However, based on experience, bad things will never go away. In fact, the more you ignore it, the more attention seeking it is and snowballed into a series of bad events which you may or may not be capable of handling it. The consequences more often than not, is disastrous. Of course, you can always blame Murphy and forget Justin Case does exist, just that you never even trouble yourself to find Justin.
Hence, the best way to deal with bad things is to face it straight on. Tell the bad thing and convince yourself to say "Bring it On, Baby". Of course handling the bad thing initially will be tough. But as you go along, bad things like knots will become easier to unravel at the end. Once you are ready to deal with it, there is no stopping of getting a good, positive result unless Mr Murphy decides to disturb your solution to find balance.
Hopefully, everyone can convince yourself to get ready to face the challenges ahead.
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Benefits vs Privacy
Technology has been surrounding us ever since I can remember.
Since the advent of the Internet, things have been changing drastically.
More new compatible applications and products have beenc created to ride on the wave of Internet, which is described as the 4th Revolution. The world suddenly is no longer restricted by its geographical limitations, and shrunk into what Marshall McLuhan coined as "Global Village".
As a result, people around the world becomes technologically enabled. For instance, people can become reporters and post what they have seen online. Everyday lives was suddenly magnified several 100 times as it was circulated throughout the entire Global Village within seconds. We all know that there is this girl residing on a tiny island, did a DIY sex video and was circulated around the world. There was this certain girlfriend who nearly destroyed her boyfriend's male happiness with her physical abuse. Nitty Gritty details becomes the information that was circulated and make known to nearly all of us so much so that I feel it maybe one of the factors that contribute to Information Overload in this Information Age. Suddenly, the quality of the information dropped so drastically that gossips filters into our daily lives.
Of course, there are other things like Google world map which also featured Street view. It is an excellent tool in my opinion especially when one decides to go travelling. At least you have seen the place before and you most likely would not get lost. You know the road situations, whether is it a one way lane or 2-way street. The convenience is unmeasurable.
However, on the news today, someone discover that a nude woman walking around her house was caught on the Street view as the street scene was captured by Google. I was like, OMG. How unfortunate.
That set me thinking how come this was not filtered? Furthermore, even though it was very convenient and has a lot of benefits, does it outweighs our own privacy now that our lives are put online that everyone can see it? Are we going to do self-censorship and be very conscious of our actions and behaviours in our everyday lives for the fear that we may be caught on the camera or other devices and be posted online?
There will be a 3rd pair of eyes looking very carefully every movement we make. How does it impact on our lives? Doesnt it amount to surveillance?
Since everyone is subjective, some people may not be comfortable with some thing and they took the picture without permission and post online. What happened to the courtesy and the respect for privacy of others? For the sake of showing off or proving one's point, other's privacy is sacrificed. Is the sacrifice worth it?
These are the issues that we have to grapple with in our everyday lives as technology become a major part of our lives.
Since the advent of the Internet, things have been changing drastically.
More new compatible applications and products have beenc created to ride on the wave of Internet, which is described as the 4th Revolution. The world suddenly is no longer restricted by its geographical limitations, and shrunk into what Marshall McLuhan coined as "Global Village".
As a result, people around the world becomes technologically enabled. For instance, people can become reporters and post what they have seen online. Everyday lives was suddenly magnified several 100 times as it was circulated throughout the entire Global Village within seconds. We all know that there is this girl residing on a tiny island, did a DIY sex video and was circulated around the world. There was this certain girlfriend who nearly destroyed her boyfriend's male happiness with her physical abuse. Nitty Gritty details becomes the information that was circulated and make known to nearly all of us so much so that I feel it maybe one of the factors that contribute to Information Overload in this Information Age. Suddenly, the quality of the information dropped so drastically that gossips filters into our daily lives.
Of course, there are other things like Google world map which also featured Street view. It is an excellent tool in my opinion especially when one decides to go travelling. At least you have seen the place before and you most likely would not get lost. You know the road situations, whether is it a one way lane or 2-way street. The convenience is unmeasurable.
However, on the news today, someone discover that a nude woman walking around her house was caught on the Street view as the street scene was captured by Google. I was like, OMG. How unfortunate.
That set me thinking how come this was not filtered? Furthermore, even though it was very convenient and has a lot of benefits, does it outweighs our own privacy now that our lives are put online that everyone can see it? Are we going to do self-censorship and be very conscious of our actions and behaviours in our everyday lives for the fear that we may be caught on the camera or other devices and be posted online?
There will be a 3rd pair of eyes looking very carefully every movement we make. How does it impact on our lives? Doesnt it amount to surveillance?
Since everyone is subjective, some people may not be comfortable with some thing and they took the picture without permission and post online. What happened to the courtesy and the respect for privacy of others? For the sake of showing off or proving one's point, other's privacy is sacrificed. Is the sacrifice worth it?
These are the issues that we have to grapple with in our everyday lives as technology become a major part of our lives.
Friday, March 12, 2010
TOYF - Part one
TOYF?
What does it mean?
THINK ON YOUR FEET
Well, it is a course that I recently attended. I was wondering to myself for the past 3 years what kinda course have I been taking that I missed out such an important one.
It is important to me, a person whose reaction is always slower than others by 3 seconds, metaphorically speaking. Well, it is more than 3 seconds.
Ahhh...I digress. It is not good to lose focus.
Back to the course.
I realise I can use this to deal with my bosses especially strong-opinionated ones.
It took me awhile to fully remember the concepts and internalise it.
Anyway, this morning, my boss was hell-bent on a certain idea that I find it ...hmmm....inappropriate..hmm...a better word might be......less beneficial.
So in my head, i was thinking....geez...how to convince him...must get something to stuff his mouth......let's see..what kinda person he is....hmmm....of course i am grateful that there are other colleagues distracting him while I think.....Geez...I really cant think of anything except to keep staring at his face...
AH-HA! An idea struck me. Remembering i was reading a book on how to market ideas by judging person from the facial features..I decide to give it a try before deciding on what plans from the TOYF to use.
Hmm......straight untidy thick brows.. signifies a very direct person, act without thinking...self-opinionated...Then I ask myself the next question. What is the issue that matters to him the most...
From there I get it that I must use the ZOOM OUT LENS plans to show him the big picture which he might have missed out....
TOYF is a good tool to use when you are short of time and need a structure to flesh out persuasive argument in a short time.
It is a good tool I feel for kids too who may find that writing compo is a chore as they do not know how to link up the details / pictures shown. STRUCTURE is the key for good compo. It is beneficial for kids to learn this right from the start.
TOYF I find is very much similar to NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING, NLP. For instance, ZOOM LENS plan used in my example here is retermed as Chunking or Reframing in NLP terms..
However, there are some training companies who specialised in both NLP and TOYF explains that TOYF is more for one-to-many communications eg. trainers to class while NLP is more for ONE-to-ONE Communications.
I beg to defer.I find that NLP is a holistic package from assessment to actions while TOYF is just solutions.
This brings out the caveat of the course.
One thing about the TOYF is you must know how to assess the situation and the target to persuade within a short period of time before you can decide what plan to use. Having all the plans is not enough. They are tools to use.
Just my opinions on this useful course which I feel everyone, especially newbies must try. I dunno why I take so long to get into the course. I have had feedbacks that it is very stressful but after going through, I would say it is well worth the brain activities.
I will try to share some more uses of TOYF here.
Cya.
What does it mean?
THINK ON YOUR FEET
Well, it is a course that I recently attended. I was wondering to myself for the past 3 years what kinda course have I been taking that I missed out such an important one.
It is important to me, a person whose reaction is always slower than others by 3 seconds, metaphorically speaking. Well, it is more than 3 seconds.
Ahhh...I digress. It is not good to lose focus.
Back to the course.
I realise I can use this to deal with my bosses especially strong-opinionated ones.
It took me awhile to fully remember the concepts and internalise it.
Anyway, this morning, my boss was hell-bent on a certain idea that I find it ...hmmm....inappropriate..hmm...a better word might be......less beneficial.
So in my head, i was thinking....geez...how to convince him...must get something to stuff his mouth......let's see..what kinda person he is....hmmm....of course i am grateful that there are other colleagues distracting him while I think.....Geez...I really cant think of anything except to keep staring at his face...
AH-HA! An idea struck me. Remembering i was reading a book on how to market ideas by judging person from the facial features..I decide to give it a try before deciding on what plans from the TOYF to use.
Hmm......straight untidy thick brows.. signifies a very direct person, act without thinking...self-opinionated...Then I ask myself the next question. What is the issue that matters to him the most...
From there I get it that I must use the ZOOM OUT LENS plans to show him the big picture which he might have missed out....
TOYF is a good tool to use when you are short of time and need a structure to flesh out persuasive argument in a short time.
It is a good tool I feel for kids too who may find that writing compo is a chore as they do not know how to link up the details / pictures shown. STRUCTURE is the key for good compo. It is beneficial for kids to learn this right from the start.
TOYF I find is very much similar to NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING, NLP. For instance, ZOOM LENS plan used in my example here is retermed as Chunking or Reframing in NLP terms..
However, there are some training companies who specialised in both NLP and TOYF explains that TOYF is more for one-to-many communications eg. trainers to class while NLP is more for ONE-to-ONE Communications.
I beg to defer.I find that NLP is a holistic package from assessment to actions while TOYF is just solutions.
This brings out the caveat of the course.
One thing about the TOYF is you must know how to assess the situation and the target to persuade within a short period of time before you can decide what plan to use. Having all the plans is not enough. They are tools to use.
Just my opinions on this useful course which I feel everyone, especially newbies must try. I dunno why I take so long to get into the course. I have had feedbacks that it is very stressful but after going through, I would say it is well worth the brain activities.
I will try to share some more uses of TOYF here.
Cya.
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Dear John
Well, I am pretty excited about this movie as this is directed by one of my favorite director, Lasse Hallstrom. I still remember one of his earliest works, a Swedish Film known as " My Life as a Dog". I was so touched by the details and the scenes that the director created for the main character that I was crazy enough to order from Amazon.com when I saw there are copies of the film sold in US.
Though the film is one of my projects, my groupmates and I absolutely love the film so much so that we re so dedicated to the film report and we got an A for it. Because of that, we formed an amazing friendship that lasted us through the university days and till now, though we din take much modules together after that.
Okie, I must apologised I digress drastically....I was brought back into memory lane.
This movie transformed from a book by Nicholas Sparks, another author who wrote heart-wrenching novels. I supposed this is going to be a teary movie for me so arm to the teeth with the maximum packets of tissue that my bag can hold, my friend, Val and I went to watch the show.
At the end, I feel so terribly empty. I was only touched when the male lead was opening his heart out to his dying autistic father in the hospital. Other than that, it was so average.
The editing wasnt so fantastic. Alot of repeat scenes which I am not sure if the original novel has it written that way. But I must say the trailer did the BEST job.
Why?
It manage to capture all of the best shots in the movie and convinced me to watch it in theatre.
But a lot of close up shots on the actors.
I felt that the casting may not be a good idea as the emotions displayed wasnt that obvious. The inner turmoils and the eyes..did not betrayed that heart wrenching feelings. I must say that Channing Tatum is part of the reason why I went into the cinema watching the show. lol.
Ahh...a lot of product endorsements in the movie. So deliberate to let the screen capture the brand of the products.
It is an average show for me.
BTW, I was nearly killed by my friend that day as I unwittingly bought the tickets scheduled at 0420AM. luckily there are still seats available and the ticket lady allow us to change. HENG ah!
Otherwise, my friend would have slaughter me alive....
Whew!!!
What a day!
Though the film is one of my projects, my groupmates and I absolutely love the film so much so that we re so dedicated to the film report and we got an A for it. Because of that, we formed an amazing friendship that lasted us through the university days and till now, though we din take much modules together after that.
Okie, I must apologised I digress drastically....I was brought back into memory lane.
This movie transformed from a book by Nicholas Sparks, another author who wrote heart-wrenching novels. I supposed this is going to be a teary movie for me so arm to the teeth with the maximum packets of tissue that my bag can hold, my friend, Val and I went to watch the show.
At the end, I feel so terribly empty. I was only touched when the male lead was opening his heart out to his dying autistic father in the hospital. Other than that, it was so average.
The editing wasnt so fantastic. Alot of repeat scenes which I am not sure if the original novel has it written that way. But I must say the trailer did the BEST job.
Why?
It manage to capture all of the best shots in the movie and convinced me to watch it in theatre.
But a lot of close up shots on the actors.
I felt that the casting may not be a good idea as the emotions displayed wasnt that obvious. The inner turmoils and the eyes..did not betrayed that heart wrenching feelings. I must say that Channing Tatum is part of the reason why I went into the cinema watching the show. lol.
Ahh...a lot of product endorsements in the movie. So deliberate to let the screen capture the brand of the products.
It is an average show for me.
BTW, I was nearly killed by my friend that day as I unwittingly bought the tickets scheduled at 0420AM. luckily there are still seats available and the ticket lady allow us to change. HENG ah!
Otherwise, my friend would have slaughter me alive....
Whew!!!
What a day!
Friday, February 19, 2010
Valentine's Day
This is one of the blockbusters that Hollywood claims to be set to overtake the box office by storm.
Well, for me it is one for movies for selection during the Chinese New Year.
Not much to choose based on the variety during this season. I would rather watch "When in Rome" or "Dear John" if they are shown in the cinema a week earlier. Given there is nothing to do during the festive period but to dear nice nice and eat, this is the alternative.
It's being said to be adapted from the English movie, "Love, Actually" where a star-studded cast is a pre-requisite.
Similarly " Valentine's Day" is full of celebrities from Hollywood Hilltop.
Julia Roberts, Jessica Alba, Jennifer Garner, Anne Hathaway, Ashton Kutcher, Emma Roberts, Bradley Cooper Taylor Lautner, Taylor Swift....
Oh by the way, Taylor Swift can act well beside her singing talent.
This movie is shift forward by human network and relationships and what happens to their love life on this very special and most often than not, commercial day.
How most of the time they get cheated, fall for the non-commitment types and eventually find that well the success formula is to marry someone who is your pal. Minimise risk and increase the success of getting married.
hmmm...
On the whole not bad, but I still prefer the original "Love Actually".
Well, for me it is one for movies for selection during the Chinese New Year.
Not much to choose based on the variety during this season. I would rather watch "When in Rome" or "Dear John" if they are shown in the cinema a week earlier. Given there is nothing to do during the festive period but to dear nice nice and eat, this is the alternative.
It's being said to be adapted from the English movie, "Love, Actually" where a star-studded cast is a pre-requisite.
Similarly " Valentine's Day" is full of celebrities from Hollywood Hilltop.
Julia Roberts, Jessica Alba, Jennifer Garner, Anne Hathaway, Ashton Kutcher, Emma Roberts, Bradley Cooper Taylor Lautner, Taylor Swift....
Oh by the way, Taylor Swift can act well beside her singing talent.
This movie is shift forward by human network and relationships and what happens to their love life on this very special and most often than not, commercial day.
How most of the time they get cheated, fall for the non-commitment types and eventually find that well the success formula is to marry someone who is your pal. Minimise risk and increase the success of getting married.
hmmm...
On the whole not bad, but I still prefer the original "Love Actually".
Sunday, January 03, 2010
Happy New Year 2010
Okie this is a brand new year. I am sensing that there will be major changes in my life. I dunno if it is good or bad, but there is a sense of heaviness in my heart. I am hoping that it will go away pretty soon. Good luck to me!
Wednesday, July 01, 2009
20 hacker's movies
Hmm,I chanced upon this not long ago and find that Hollywood has been quite partial to the Hackers. So many movies have been made on it.
June, 2009
While none of these next 20 movies depicts the true motions of computer hacking, most of these stories are memorable in some way. Most are good escapist fun. Some are visually stunning. A few of these movies are even powerful social commentaries. No, you won't learn secret root command lines or packet sniffing by renting these films, folks. But if you want some entertaining DVD rentals involving computers and crime, here are the 20 Best Hacker Movies...(In no particular order, as voted on by a panel of opinionated About.com judges:)
20) The Net (1995)Sandra Bullock plays a software engineer who loses her identity to digital thieves. Filmed during the fanatic years of the then-novel World Wide Web, this film is now cliched. Nevertheless, fans of Sandra Bullock will still enjoy watching this B movie.
19) Takedown (2000)This is the sensationalized story of famous phone phreaker, Kevin Mitnick. This is a cult classic that is very hard to find in rental stores.
18) Pirates of Silicon Valley (1999)This is the flawed storytelling of how Apple and Microsoft came to be. While this movie got mixed reviews, many people have commented they loved it. Three dollars at your video store, and you can decide for yourself if this was a good film.
17) The Matrix (1999)This was such a groundbreaking adventure in reality and existentialism. No, you will not learn how to break into a Linux server by watching Trinity port-scanning with "nmap". But this movie is definitely cool, nonetheless.
16) Hackers (1995)Well, this story was really weak, and the hacking scenes were nowhere near reality. But you have to watch this just to say you did. Plus: Angelina Jolie is reason enough for some males to rent this.
15) The Conversation (1974)While you won't see computers in this classic film, the theme of surveillance and the violation of people's privacy is so masterfully explored here. **Related movie: The Conversation was re-imagined as Will Smith's Enemy of the State in 2001. The 2001 treatment of the story was designed as a modern techno thriller, and has some tremendous special effects and satellite surveillance sequences. Having Gene Hackman star with Will Smith makes it worth the price of a DVD rental.
14) Antitrust (2001)This movie has some strong points about it. Two idealistic computer whiz kids graduate from Stanford, and one of them enters the world of private sector programming. Sure enough, these two programmers find themselves in the middle of cybercrime scandals. Definitely worth renting for three bucks.
13) Real Genius (1985)There is only about 5 minutes of actual "hacking" in this comedy, where Laslo "brute-forces" his way into the defense network, and Kent and Mitch do phone bugging. But there are laughs aplenty in this fun B movie. Definite smile factor if you like playful and quirky humor movies.
12) Mission Impossible (1996)While many people no longer like Tom Cruise, his first MI movie did have I.T. and computer hacking sequences. Some good action, too.
11) The Thirteenth Floor(1999)A very extreme version of "The Sims", this movie is about scientists who create a virtual world where participants plug in and take over a computer character's life. The characters are unaware of their puppet existence, but then a real life murder shakes the foundation of the game.
10) Swordfish (2001)Over-the-top violence, preposterous situations, sexy women, and outstanding special effects make this a great popcorn rental. No, don't bring your brain to watch this, but if you like techno-thrillers, definitely rent this. John Travolta is the slimy villain, Hugh Jackman is the studly hero hacker, and Halle Berry is the mysterious damsel.
9) The Italian Job (2003)Modern heist movies always involve some sort of hacking. This particular heist movie is extremely entertaining, especially when the supposed true inventor of "Napster" is the main hacker. At least 20 minutes of hacking footage in this actioner. Definitely worth renting if you haven't seen it.
8) Foolproof (2003)A lower-budget movie about hobby bank robbers, this was a delightful surprise to many viewers. Ryan Reynolds and his friends "virtually" rob banks for fun, but are blackmailed into doing a heist for real. This is a good action rental.
7) eXistenZ (1999)A David Cronenberg film, this is the creepiest entry in the list. A game designer creates an artificial reality game that plugs directly into people's minds. The line between reality and game then blurs in a violent and gruesome way. This is very much a powerful art film, and not for everyone.
6) The Score (2001)Edward Norton and Robert De Niro are fabulous in this heist flick. In a clever plot to rob a Montreal customs house of some royal artifacts, Norton and De Niro must break into the security systems with the help of a socially-awkward hacker who lives in his mother's basement. Ten minutes of hacking, and 100 minutes of phenomenal robbery storytelling!
5) Sneakers (1992)While dated, this movie was groundbreaking at the time, and is still charming to this day. The story revolves around two college buddies who take different paths in life. One becomes an ethical hacker, and the other...well, he is not quite so noble. Some great plot twists and comic scenes make this a good way to spend a Saturday afternoon at home.
4) Revolution OS (2001)This documentary tells the story about the Linux operating system, and how it forwarded the philosophy of "open source" and free intellectual property. Not an action movie, but definitely interesting for people who want to learn more about why computer culture is the way it is. If you can find a copy of this, definitely rent it.
3) Die Hard 4: Live Free or Die Hard (2007)Leave it to Bruce Willis to save the world from uber hackers. Macintosh advertising personality, Justin Long, plays the reluctant programmer caught up in an digital terrorism scheme. Like Swordfish, this movie has over-the-top violence and outrageous action sequences, but if you liked the Die Hard series, definitely see this .
2) Wargames (1983)Yes, this movie is very old, but it is still a pivotal film in many viewers' minds. A young man finds a back door into a military computer that is linked to the nuclear defense grid of the United States. A preposterous plot, but a compelling commentary on nuclear war and the destruction of the human race. You have to see this movie just to say you have seen it.
1) Tron (1982)A classic! A hacker is transported into the digital universe inside a computer, and must survive combat as a cyber gladiator in order to stop the villanous Master Control. The imagination behind this movie made big ripples in the science fiction world, and today, Tron is a cult classic that every computer user should see at least once.
**Special Mention - movies with hackers that almost made this top 20 list:
Jurassic Park (1993)
Untraceable (2008)
The Core (2003)
Lawnmower Man (1992)
Disclosure (1994)
Goldeneye (1995)
Virtuousity (1995)
One Point Oh (2004)
Superman III (1983)
Deja Vu (2006).
Taken from:
http://netforbeginners.about.com/od/hacking101/a/hackermovies.htm
June, 2009
While none of these next 20 movies depicts the true motions of computer hacking, most of these stories are memorable in some way. Most are good escapist fun. Some are visually stunning. A few of these movies are even powerful social commentaries. No, you won't learn secret root command lines or packet sniffing by renting these films, folks. But if you want some entertaining DVD rentals involving computers and crime, here are the 20 Best Hacker Movies...(In no particular order, as voted on by a panel of opinionated About.com judges:)
20) The Net (1995)Sandra Bullock plays a software engineer who loses her identity to digital thieves. Filmed during the fanatic years of the then-novel World Wide Web, this film is now cliched. Nevertheless, fans of Sandra Bullock will still enjoy watching this B movie.
19) Takedown (2000)This is the sensationalized story of famous phone phreaker, Kevin Mitnick. This is a cult classic that is very hard to find in rental stores.
18) Pirates of Silicon Valley (1999)This is the flawed storytelling of how Apple and Microsoft came to be. While this movie got mixed reviews, many people have commented they loved it. Three dollars at your video store, and you can decide for yourself if this was a good film.
17) The Matrix (1999)This was such a groundbreaking adventure in reality and existentialism. No, you will not learn how to break into a Linux server by watching Trinity port-scanning with "nmap". But this movie is definitely cool, nonetheless.
16) Hackers (1995)Well, this story was really weak, and the hacking scenes were nowhere near reality. But you have to watch this just to say you did. Plus: Angelina Jolie is reason enough for some males to rent this.
15) The Conversation (1974)While you won't see computers in this classic film, the theme of surveillance and the violation of people's privacy is so masterfully explored here. **Related movie: The Conversation was re-imagined as Will Smith's Enemy of the State in 2001. The 2001 treatment of the story was designed as a modern techno thriller, and has some tremendous special effects and satellite surveillance sequences. Having Gene Hackman star with Will Smith makes it worth the price of a DVD rental.
14) Antitrust (2001)This movie has some strong points about it. Two idealistic computer whiz kids graduate from Stanford, and one of them enters the world of private sector programming. Sure enough, these two programmers find themselves in the middle of cybercrime scandals. Definitely worth renting for three bucks.
13) Real Genius (1985)There is only about 5 minutes of actual "hacking" in this comedy, where Laslo "brute-forces" his way into the defense network, and Kent and Mitch do phone bugging. But there are laughs aplenty in this fun B movie. Definite smile factor if you like playful and quirky humor movies.
12) Mission Impossible (1996)While many people no longer like Tom Cruise, his first MI movie did have I.T. and computer hacking sequences. Some good action, too.
11) The Thirteenth Floor(1999)A very extreme version of "The Sims", this movie is about scientists who create a virtual world where participants plug in and take over a computer character's life. The characters are unaware of their puppet existence, but then a real life murder shakes the foundation of the game.
10) Swordfish (2001)Over-the-top violence, preposterous situations, sexy women, and outstanding special effects make this a great popcorn rental. No, don't bring your brain to watch this, but if you like techno-thrillers, definitely rent this. John Travolta is the slimy villain, Hugh Jackman is the studly hero hacker, and Halle Berry is the mysterious damsel.
9) The Italian Job (2003)Modern heist movies always involve some sort of hacking. This particular heist movie is extremely entertaining, especially when the supposed true inventor of "Napster" is the main hacker. At least 20 minutes of hacking footage in this actioner. Definitely worth renting if you haven't seen it.
8) Foolproof (2003)A lower-budget movie about hobby bank robbers, this was a delightful surprise to many viewers. Ryan Reynolds and his friends "virtually" rob banks for fun, but are blackmailed into doing a heist for real. This is a good action rental.
7) eXistenZ (1999)A David Cronenberg film, this is the creepiest entry in the list. A game designer creates an artificial reality game that plugs directly into people's minds. The line between reality and game then blurs in a violent and gruesome way. This is very much a powerful art film, and not for everyone.
6) The Score (2001)Edward Norton and Robert De Niro are fabulous in this heist flick. In a clever plot to rob a Montreal customs house of some royal artifacts, Norton and De Niro must break into the security systems with the help of a socially-awkward hacker who lives in his mother's basement. Ten minutes of hacking, and 100 minutes of phenomenal robbery storytelling!
5) Sneakers (1992)While dated, this movie was groundbreaking at the time, and is still charming to this day. The story revolves around two college buddies who take different paths in life. One becomes an ethical hacker, and the other...well, he is not quite so noble. Some great plot twists and comic scenes make this a good way to spend a Saturday afternoon at home.
4) Revolution OS (2001)This documentary tells the story about the Linux operating system, and how it forwarded the philosophy of "open source" and free intellectual property. Not an action movie, but definitely interesting for people who want to learn more about why computer culture is the way it is. If you can find a copy of this, definitely rent it.
3) Die Hard 4: Live Free or Die Hard (2007)Leave it to Bruce Willis to save the world from uber hackers. Macintosh advertising personality, Justin Long, plays the reluctant programmer caught up in an digital terrorism scheme. Like Swordfish, this movie has over-the-top violence and outrageous action sequences, but if you liked the Die Hard series, definitely see this .
2) Wargames (1983)Yes, this movie is very old, but it is still a pivotal film in many viewers' minds. A young man finds a back door into a military computer that is linked to the nuclear defense grid of the United States. A preposterous plot, but a compelling commentary on nuclear war and the destruction of the human race. You have to see this movie just to say you have seen it.
1) Tron (1982)A classic! A hacker is transported into the digital universe inside a computer, and must survive combat as a cyber gladiator in order to stop the villanous Master Control. The imagination behind this movie made big ripples in the science fiction world, and today, Tron is a cult classic that every computer user should see at least once.
**Special Mention - movies with hackers that almost made this top 20 list:
Jurassic Park (1993)
Untraceable (2008)
The Core (2003)
Lawnmower Man (1992)
Disclosure (1994)
Goldeneye (1995)
Virtuousity (1995)
One Point Oh (2004)
Superman III (1983)
Deja Vu (2006).
Taken from:
http://netforbeginners.about.com/od/hacking101/a/hackermovies.htm