Actually, I kinda wonder how couple deal with their finances.
To me, it is a wonder how they divy up the finances. I curiously brought this up with a colleague.Turned out they had a joint account for things they do together. Eg. Dinner, movies. But funds to parents is still by each other. It is not shared.
I was wondering in cases of divorce, how was the $$ in the joint account split? According to contribution or according to persons.
Monday, April 19, 2010
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Handling opinionated people
Beside the TOYF idea of talking facts and reasons to opinionated people to make them see your point, I hear another good solution to deal with them.
I was thinking to myself because these people are normally very stubborn and single track, it is often very difficult to make them see the point of view through facts as well. They will jolly well shut down their receiving channel and puah bodoh.
I was discussing with my colleague about certain things and we talk about this. I asked what was his solution. He replied. "Pretend or convince the opinionated person that both of you are in the same direction. Let them go in their own way first and slowly guide them back to your path."
I commented. "Isnt that a long detour? That is a waste of the time."
He replied. "You don't have a choice. He cannot see your route so let him go along and turn him back. Soften him so that he will let your ideas flow into his brain."
This is so NLP.
I was thinking to myself because these people are normally very stubborn and single track, it is often very difficult to make them see the point of view through facts as well. They will jolly well shut down their receiving channel and puah bodoh.
I was discussing with my colleague about certain things and we talk about this. I asked what was his solution. He replied. "Pretend or convince the opinionated person that both of you are in the same direction. Let them go in their own way first and slowly guide them back to your path."
I commented. "Isnt that a long detour? That is a waste of the time."
He replied. "You don't have a choice. He cannot see your route so let him go along and turn him back. Soften him so that he will let your ideas flow into his brain."
This is so NLP.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Career Options
One of those serious issues that I have been thinking about recently.
One will only climb up the corporate ladder when the individual's goals are aligned with the company's.
This is extemely important as one cannot function to their full capabilities.
Besides that, one must consider about the kind of growth and experience they have reached during their tenure in the company.
For instant, besides knowledge growth in a certain area of expertise, what other soft skills are being developed? What other courses are taken externally to boost your expertise and resume?
I used to think that work life surrounds only one person. But then again, I forget the bigger environment which is the company. This costly mistake gave me a bonus - aka - rejection letters when I applied for jobs in the past.
Then I was being reprimanded by my dad when he made me go through the interview process with him over again, much to my anger of being rejected yet again.
Anyway, that's the past.
Then I went on to a local company and then I realised that besides being a multitasker, I think or feel that I was overqualified for what I was assigned to do. Anyway. I know that being a Work Newbie, it is definitely important to work the ground. Top mgt would not know what competencies / capabilities a newbie will have. They also need to observe the newcomer's attitude and work quality.
But after 3years of being on the job, I feel beside the $$ increasing with the no. of years in the company, the personal growth is significantly higher. Things like how to handle people, work among colleagues, bonding, and etc. But professional life, it seems like a standstill. Well, I didnt go into a company to evaluate all this. But some times after having a hard time in office, I wonder to myself what have I achieve. Have I become a pawn to someone who used me to get to others in office politics? What else have I learnt all these years?
I always hope that someone give me feedback on how I work and my attitude to others which obviously is my Johari's window. I can get quite nasty when I want to. I tried to control my temper at times. Worry a lot.
I wish my colleagues or bosses would feedback to me more rather than giving me superficial compliments which I find them a lip service or a perk to get the next job done just like a little puppy given a treat before being sent on the next trip to fetch the frisby.
I was being told that I may be suited for liaison work. I was thinking may not be a bad idea except that I am an "I" person. I need my meditation period and being away from others. Geez.like recharging power..
I noticed that I cannot sit still at my cubicle. I must move around so data crunching is not my cup of tea. I must find a job that matching this and I am passionate about.
I thought of going into the media / video editing field. I love the thrills of getting the right effects and being instinctive to finding the right jigsaw to fill the gap. I just wonder how good I am in the industry standard.
Argh! I am evaluating my work value again. It is an annual event which I feel everyone should do. It is similar to those who suggest updating the resume. It is to get people away from their comfort zone and see if there is any value added in their work as compared to the industry.
I see what I have then.
Thanks for the self-discovery session cum may be complaining session with me.
One will only climb up the corporate ladder when the individual's goals are aligned with the company's.
This is extemely important as one cannot function to their full capabilities.
Besides that, one must consider about the kind of growth and experience they have reached during their tenure in the company.
For instant, besides knowledge growth in a certain area of expertise, what other soft skills are being developed? What other courses are taken externally to boost your expertise and resume?
I used to think that work life surrounds only one person. But then again, I forget the bigger environment which is the company. This costly mistake gave me a bonus - aka - rejection letters when I applied for jobs in the past.
Then I was being reprimanded by my dad when he made me go through the interview process with him over again, much to my anger of being rejected yet again.
Anyway, that's the past.
Then I went on to a local company and then I realised that besides being a multitasker, I think or feel that I was overqualified for what I was assigned to do. Anyway. I know that being a Work Newbie, it is definitely important to work the ground. Top mgt would not know what competencies / capabilities a newbie will have. They also need to observe the newcomer's attitude and work quality.
But after 3years of being on the job, I feel beside the $$ increasing with the no. of years in the company, the personal growth is significantly higher. Things like how to handle people, work among colleagues, bonding, and etc. But professional life, it seems like a standstill. Well, I didnt go into a company to evaluate all this. But some times after having a hard time in office, I wonder to myself what have I achieve. Have I become a pawn to someone who used me to get to others in office politics? What else have I learnt all these years?
I always hope that someone give me feedback on how I work and my attitude to others which obviously is my Johari's window. I can get quite nasty when I want to. I tried to control my temper at times. Worry a lot.
I wish my colleagues or bosses would feedback to me more rather than giving me superficial compliments which I find them a lip service or a perk to get the next job done just like a little puppy given a treat before being sent on the next trip to fetch the frisby.
I was being told that I may be suited for liaison work. I was thinking may not be a bad idea except that I am an "I" person. I need my meditation period and being away from others. Geez.like recharging power..
I noticed that I cannot sit still at my cubicle. I must move around so data crunching is not my cup of tea. I must find a job that matching this and I am passionate about.
I thought of going into the media / video editing field. I love the thrills of getting the right effects and being instinctive to finding the right jigsaw to fill the gap. I just wonder how good I am in the industry standard.
Argh! I am evaluating my work value again. It is an annual event which I feel everyone should do. It is similar to those who suggest updating the resume. It is to get people away from their comfort zone and see if there is any value added in their work as compared to the industry.
I see what I have then.
Thanks for the self-discovery session cum may be complaining session with me.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Branded names
Sometimes I wonder why would women call these bags decorated with logos of other people's names all over it repeatedly as BEAUTIFUL.
It is just a bloody logo so what so beautiful about it. It is just the work of the narcisstic designer who wants people to blatantly advertise their names for them . I bet they know the art of VIRAL MARKETING where the other sensory appealing-till-overdose media effects are not present. When one says the fact, it means nothing but when many speak the same thing, it becomes gospel truth. One of the oldest and proven way of marketing, still works today.
Then they tagged a high price for their logos and produced in limited amount, calling it LIMITED EDITION. It just appeals to the mass's need to stand out and hold something unique from the rest. By putting a high price to it, it just make people feel the importance of the logo as often items are judged by their materialistic value.
In a way, the materialistic consumerist society has set the definition of beauty depending on the market conditions eg low supply and hinged at high price.
Sounds cynical? Well, you just have to sit on it and ponder.
It is just a bloody logo so what so beautiful about it. It is just the work of the narcisstic designer who wants people to blatantly advertise their names for them . I bet they know the art of VIRAL MARKETING where the other sensory appealing-till-overdose media effects are not present. When one says the fact, it means nothing but when many speak the same thing, it becomes gospel truth. One of the oldest and proven way of marketing, still works today.
Then they tagged a high price for their logos and produced in limited amount, calling it LIMITED EDITION. It just appeals to the mass's need to stand out and hold something unique from the rest. By putting a high price to it, it just make people feel the importance of the logo as often items are judged by their materialistic value.
In a way, the materialistic consumerist society has set the definition of beauty depending on the market conditions eg low supply and hinged at high price.
Sounds cynical? Well, you just have to sit on it and ponder.
Wednesday, April 07, 2010
Trekking at Bukit Timah Nature Reserve
My colleague suggest trekking at Bukit Timah Nature Reserve for exercise after work.
Naturally, I agreed. I feel I can keep up with them though the terrain got me a little worried caused my leg may not be able to take it.
We went there and we saw a lot of branded cars already parked there. You know the more common ones now like the 4 interlinked circles, Be My Wifes, M cars and etc. We also saw a few half naked men there after their work. Geez...They look like the King Kong if you get what I mean. 2 slabs of muscles propped on 1 big sack. Geez....
Then we tried walking up the hill after goin to the toilet.
There, I confirmed my fears. Geez..The natural tracks are very challenging. The ups and downs. The roots as steps and the concrete barriers to prevent erosion as steps. Geez. I haven been so physically challenged. I had to stretch out to reach the next step down. I was in fact slowing the entire group down and I was so embarrassed.
Geez...
But I dun have a choice, it is either I head back or I continue with them. I thought. HECK, I should be able to do it. No reason why the others can do but I cant. The ups and downs of the slopes are so near the cliff that I cannot imagine if one of us fell down. It is like the abyss. Geez..
After the 1st part of the slope, I wonder. WHY AM I DOING THIS?
Haha...so ironic. I am already sweating like crazy. My whole face is covered with sweat and my teeshirt is already half wet. haha...No way, I am already there and I don't want to be left behind. I was panting like crazy.
Heng I borrowed the stick from my colleague and use it to help me move around like up the slope and down it. My colleague say I use it like pro. Of coz, I used to hobble around with an umbrella when my ligament was torn.
Lucky, my colleague is there to encourage me. Geez..Dunno what will happen when he is not around man.
Then I trudged on. Geez...It is tough. At the halfway junction where there is an option to continue on a longer route or return to the startpoint.
We decided to go on. Geez..1st time I was wiping my sweat with towel and wet somemore.
We had to pass by this very big gap and there is no steps. My colleague teach us how to climb over the large trunk of a tree and get over. Nearly slipped and fell.
As we were walking to the other side, I commented things like I know why this hill very important coz can lure the attacker to the cliff side and kick their butt so that they end up rolling down the hill.
When we trekked to the "Yao Ming Po", the killing slope, I feel the crows literally flew past me.
Gosh..I really feel like Jack and the beanstalk. There are steps all the way to the sky and my legs and ankles throbbed.
I cant see the end. I turned around and saw the slope. Geez..I feel I had vertigo. I quickly turn around. Nearly wanna faint. A moment of dizziness.
I told myself. Dun look behind. No turning back. I panicked.
In addition, my colleague said only Mount Kota Kinabalu has stretcher services that carry people down the hill and charge by the weight of the victim. BUT there was no such service here.
That really helps. Coz I need to get myself out of it.
I tried to climb the treacherous steps up the slope. I only stopped for a while when there is a wider step. But the steps besides being steep is full of rocks. Geez..
The only thing I remember and keep in mind is I want to go home. I want to eat my dinner alive. Finally the goal becomes to reach the orange bag.
Then when I reach the orange bag belonging to my colleague I felt a sense of relief and said. This is like goal setting. Cannot see the front road. But One has to perservere on coz there is no turning back. Already sink too much into it. Have no choice but to carry on. Had to have stamina and find ways to alleviate the risks and make road smoother.
I found myself cannot take it when I reach the concrete floor and found out that the concrete floor is as steep as the track with minimal friction and I was like paddling around like a penguin.
My colleague was joking saying that no mosquito dare to land on we girls but to stay with him. He is the only one without insect repellent.
Geez.....
What a day. But I must say the dinner worth it wor. I realise I regain the capabilities of eating so fast.ahah......
Geez...real tired that my ankle hurt as I place improper pressure goin down the slope and my arm hurts as I use it to prop my leg and some pressure off both feets.
However, as we forget to do warmup,my thighs hurts like hell..geez.....
I need a good rub and good massage..gee...helpme...
Naturally, I agreed. I feel I can keep up with them though the terrain got me a little worried caused my leg may not be able to take it.
We went there and we saw a lot of branded cars already parked there. You know the more common ones now like the 4 interlinked circles, Be My Wifes, M cars and etc. We also saw a few half naked men there after their work. Geez...They look like the King Kong if you get what I mean. 2 slabs of muscles propped on 1 big sack. Geez....
Then we tried walking up the hill after goin to the toilet.
There, I confirmed my fears. Geez..The natural tracks are very challenging. The ups and downs. The roots as steps and the concrete barriers to prevent erosion as steps. Geez. I haven been so physically challenged. I had to stretch out to reach the next step down. I was in fact slowing the entire group down and I was so embarrassed.
Geez...
But I dun have a choice, it is either I head back or I continue with them. I thought. HECK, I should be able to do it. No reason why the others can do but I cant. The ups and downs of the slopes are so near the cliff that I cannot imagine if one of us fell down. It is like the abyss. Geez..
After the 1st part of the slope, I wonder. WHY AM I DOING THIS?
Haha...so ironic. I am already sweating like crazy. My whole face is covered with sweat and my teeshirt is already half wet. haha...No way, I am already there and I don't want to be left behind. I was panting like crazy.
Heng I borrowed the stick from my colleague and use it to help me move around like up the slope and down it. My colleague say I use it like pro. Of coz, I used to hobble around with an umbrella when my ligament was torn.
Lucky, my colleague is there to encourage me. Geez..Dunno what will happen when he is not around man.
Then I trudged on. Geez...It is tough. At the halfway junction where there is an option to continue on a longer route or return to the startpoint.
We decided to go on. Geez..1st time I was wiping my sweat with towel and wet somemore.
We had to pass by this very big gap and there is no steps. My colleague teach us how to climb over the large trunk of a tree and get over. Nearly slipped and fell.
As we were walking to the other side, I commented things like I know why this hill very important coz can lure the attacker to the cliff side and kick their butt so that they end up rolling down the hill.
When we trekked to the "Yao Ming Po", the killing slope, I feel the crows literally flew past me.
Gosh..I really feel like Jack and the beanstalk. There are steps all the way to the sky and my legs and ankles throbbed.
I cant see the end. I turned around and saw the slope. Geez..I feel I had vertigo. I quickly turn around. Nearly wanna faint. A moment of dizziness.
I told myself. Dun look behind. No turning back. I panicked.
In addition, my colleague said only Mount Kota Kinabalu has stretcher services that carry people down the hill and charge by the weight of the victim. BUT there was no such service here.
That really helps. Coz I need to get myself out of it.
I tried to climb the treacherous steps up the slope. I only stopped for a while when there is a wider step. But the steps besides being steep is full of rocks. Geez..
The only thing I remember and keep in mind is I want to go home. I want to eat my dinner alive. Finally the goal becomes to reach the orange bag.
Then when I reach the orange bag belonging to my colleague I felt a sense of relief and said. This is like goal setting. Cannot see the front road. But One has to perservere on coz there is no turning back. Already sink too much into it. Have no choice but to carry on. Had to have stamina and find ways to alleviate the risks and make road smoother.
I found myself cannot take it when I reach the concrete floor and found out that the concrete floor is as steep as the track with minimal friction and I was like paddling around like a penguin.
My colleague was joking saying that no mosquito dare to land on we girls but to stay with him. He is the only one without insect repellent.
Geez.....
What a day. But I must say the dinner worth it wor. I realise I regain the capabilities of eating so fast.ahah......
Geez...real tired that my ankle hurt as I place improper pressure goin down the slope and my arm hurts as I use it to prop my leg and some pressure off both feets.
However, as we forget to do warmup,my thighs hurts like hell..geez.....
I need a good rub and good massage..gee...helpme...
Saturday, April 03, 2010
New Phone
I got my new phone!
Yay!!
Cant wait to play with this new toy. But have to wait for it to finish charging...
Way cool!!!
Yay!!
Cant wait to play with this new toy. But have to wait for it to finish charging...
Way cool!!!
Friday, April 02, 2010
Clash of Titans
It is like one of the shows I have been waiting for.
I like Sam Worthington since AVATAR. Geez....
Anyway, it is a remake of ancient Greek Mythology.
The animations are GREAT! The cast is eye pleasing and the settings is okie.
Just that I do not like the prophet of sorts so naive.
I like the show overall. I would be overwhelmed if we watched it in 3D.
We met with some problems while we are trying to get tickets for the show.
First, the trusty old cinema theatre's aircon broke down. Cant get the slot we want.
2nd, there was this couple who asked the tiket lady to come up and evict us as we sat on their places mistakenly. We were thinking cant they just confront us about it instead of goin 1 big round and the show starts already. Anyway, they got their right of way mah, so why so shy about it?
I mean halfway through the show, I was wondering if Sam Worthington was going to be like Gerard Butler, trying romance comedy. I was thinking nice bod going to waste. Geez..A little crazy since someone once commented to me that it is a waste of time to train up 6 packs which by the end of the day all was to reduce to one bag.
I like Sam Worthington since AVATAR. Geez....
Anyway, it is a remake of ancient Greek Mythology.
The animations are GREAT! The cast is eye pleasing and the settings is okie.
Just that I do not like the prophet of sorts so naive.
I like the show overall. I would be overwhelmed if we watched it in 3D.
We met with some problems while we are trying to get tickets for the show.
First, the trusty old cinema theatre's aircon broke down. Cant get the slot we want.
2nd, there was this couple who asked the tiket lady to come up and evict us as we sat on their places mistakenly. We were thinking cant they just confront us about it instead of goin 1 big round and the show starts already. Anyway, they got their right of way mah, so why so shy about it?
I mean halfway through the show, I was wondering if Sam Worthington was going to be like Gerard Butler, trying romance comedy. I was thinking nice bod going to waste. Geez..A little crazy since someone once commented to me that it is a waste of time to train up 6 packs which by the end of the day all was to reduce to one bag.
Thursday, April 01, 2010
When in Rome
I was quite reluctant when my friend jio me to watch this movie.
I mean this year's movies names are very forgettable..I keep forgetting what is the show when I know the trailer.
Anyway, this movie's trailer was very interesting. It was about this bachelorette who had everything she wants except for love. She met jerks.
Finally, so hurt she was that she took out coins that people tossed into the fountain of love in Rome, in a declaration to save them.
Unknown to her, she fell into a curse. The men who tossed the coins that she picked up came courting after her.
She was shocked. She thought the guy whom she like also fell under the same curse. She thought he wasnt really falling for her.
After the show, I had some thoughts about it. Though the show was silly, it was hilarious and almost full house in the theatre I was in.
When too many bad and unfortunate things occur, one just feel at end's wits. That's why when out of a sudden a beautiful event landed, one just could not believe the fortune and keep on doubting whether is it tur or not.
Too beautiful to behold.
One just connot believe that he or she can own such a beautiful thing after a series of bad events convinced the person that they are unlucky.
I mean this year's movies names are very forgettable..I keep forgetting what is the show when I know the trailer.
Anyway, this movie's trailer was very interesting. It was about this bachelorette who had everything she wants except for love. She met jerks.
Finally, so hurt she was that she took out coins that people tossed into the fountain of love in Rome, in a declaration to save them.
Unknown to her, she fell into a curse. The men who tossed the coins that she picked up came courting after her.
She was shocked. She thought the guy whom she like also fell under the same curse. She thought he wasnt really falling for her.
After the show, I had some thoughts about it. Though the show was silly, it was hilarious and almost full house in the theatre I was in.
When too many bad and unfortunate things occur, one just feel at end's wits. That's why when out of a sudden a beautiful event landed, one just could not believe the fortune and keep on doubting whether is it tur or not.
Too beautiful to behold.
One just connot believe that he or she can own such a beautiful thing after a series of bad events convinced the person that they are unlucky.